What does Self-Love mean?
We have all heard how important it is to take care of ourselves. Often it is suggested that we need to invest money on doing the things that we love. Like going to the gym, looking good, receiving a massage and doing our hair are all marvellous things we can do. After all, we only have this one body, that we need to look after carefully and it deserves our attention and care.
But what happens when we focus all of our attention on this but we never learn to truly love ourselves?
When this happens, we feel empty. It doesn’t matter how many times we go to the spa, treat us to a massage or where we go on holiday. In spite of our travels and fancy restaurants, the whole we sometimes feel inside or feeling disconnected with ourselves, simply doesn’t go away. That’s the moment when we realize that something is missing. And understanding that external things will never be able to fill that hole. That’s the moment to pause and start to look from within.
Have you ever been asked by someone how you take care of yourself? And answered in astonishment: “I go to the gym”, “I take a bath”, “I go treat myself to a massage”, and “I eat healthily” etc. And because they look after themselves, they don’t know why they feel a vault in themselves. Others might say that they meditate regularly, pray or are part of a spiritually, lovely community. Clearly this person looks after themselves spiritually – however, how do you look after yourself emotionally?
Much of the time, we maybe practicing self-care physically, and spiritually, but abandoning ourselves emotionally, feeling emptiness insight.
Regardless of whether or not they are exercising or meditating, they are still suffering the consequences of not loving themselves emotionally (these include things like anxiety, depression, anger, addictions or relationship problems). That’s why it’s essential to love yourself emotionally — not in the ways what we associate “self-care” with.
Self-Care vs Self-Love
Self-care is honouring and respecting the sacred temple we inhabit, listening to its needs and maintaining its balance throughout the path of love. We can achieve all of this by changing the belief system that rules our mind, which we had nurtured for our entire lives. When we finally recognise the thoughts that limit us, we will discover that most of our beliefs -the ones that have created our reality- are not our own, but someone else’s. I invite you to consider this and start walking on the path of Self-love today!
When we start to examine, nurture and take care of ourselves internally, that’s when we realize the piece that was missing was nothing but a simple word: LOVE! Self-love!
Loving ourselves is just learning to pay attention to that inner voice called intuition that speaks to us constantly. It is believing and trusting that inner truth completely. Self-love is understanding that the path we walk is the right one for US, and us only, as it is the path to self-discovery. Self-love is knowing that all the answers are within us. It is living balanced within our values. It is accepting this truth in spite of what the rules and norms of society are, in which we are obsessed with the perception of others and we must neglect the well-being of our own souls, consider “right”.
Self-love is dedicating time to yourself every day. Even if it is only five minutes, to be with and to connect with ourselves. It is sitting in silent in your own company and understanding that we are extraordinary. We are extraordinary even if we are not able to achieve the goals that we “were supposed to achieve”. So that we are admired and accepted. Self-love is living in the present. It is loving every moment, special and unique. Self-love is finding that inner voice that speaks our truth and reveals what exists inside ourselves.
Self-love is understanding that our energy is distinctive and acknowledging that we will never be like other people. Instead, we will create our own path, walk our own path and we will leave our own footprints behind.
Above all things, Self-love is believing in ourselves. It is setting boundaries with others firmly, but lovingly so we can respect and prioritise our own soul in order to let it be.